If I could only pick one valuable lesson from 2018, it’s that you can plan all you want and life will still surprise you. If you had told us this time last year that we would be spending this New Year’s in our new house, I’d call you crazy and a few other things. But, here we are.
I have never successfully completed a single resolution. I just heard someone say that if we had found the SOLUTION in the first place, we wouldn’t need a RE-solution. *mind blown* No wonder we can’t keep resolutions! It’s the same as saying we want to lose weight. The definition of losing something implies you want to find it again! A better thing to say would be you want to RELEASE weight. Conscious language is so important, friends.
This year instead of setting any resolutions or goals or plans, I’m breaking down the big picture into tiny baby steps I can focus on every day that will ultimately get me where I want to be, while driving home the fact that I need to LIVE IN THE PRESENT DAY and stop always pining for the future as I’ve always done.
My daily goals are based on these three pillars: Wellness, Purpose, Abundance.
Wellness can be physical, nutritional, mental, emotional; whatever you want it to be. It could be as simple as drinking more water (set an amount as your goal so it’s easy to track) or as advanced as meditating during your daily yoga practice. For me wellness looks like drinking more water, using my food tracker app to hit my nutritional macros, and not drinking any alcohol for the month of January as a reset after the holidays.
Purpose can be your job, your relationships, your goals. My purpose is to first be a wife and put my marriage above everything else. Next is taking care of the farm and all our animals. If I’m not doing those two things well then nothing else I can do is worth it.
Abundance typically relates to finances but it can also be an abundance of health or an abundance of positive mindset. For us this is looking like a spending freeze through January to create extra abundance in our savings account so we can get closer to being debt free. No alcohol, no buying lunch out, no restaurants, no extra purchases, no ATM withdrawals. We will get strict about meal planning and stick to a strict budget.
If you’re like me and making resolutions makes you cringe because you know you won’t see them through to completion, try setting these small daily goals instead. Start with what you would set as your overall resolution, and break it into tiny baby steps you can do every day that will ultimately get you to complete that goal over time. Consistent baby steps forward is more successful than bursts of intention that fizzle out after a few weeks or even days.
Since things change so quickly and a resolution you set at the beginning of the year might not even be relevant just a few months later (like in our case, we had no idea we would be living at the farm so the whole second half of our year of plans went out the window) work with just one quarter at a time. Every 3 months take some time to evaluate your progress so far, see if the goals you set are still relevant or if you have completely changed course, then make new goals and plans accordingly.
We are still too far out to set a timeline for when we will be able to start on our house projects after my mom moves into her new house this spring, so if I were to set my goals and deadlines now I would most likely just be frustrated when they don’t pan out. Instead, I’m focusing on using the entire first quarter of this year to focus on my own self care to prepare myself for the rest of the year. That way I am in complete control of my goals and I’ve removed the stress of worrying about anything else for 90 days. My hope is that we will be able to start these projects in the second quarter of the year, but I will wait to dedicate that quarter until we get closer.
Setting goals in 3 month intervals and breaking them down into daily baby steps has taken such a huge weight off my shoulders. There is so much we want to do and the list can be very overwhelming, but breaking it down like this makes it much more manageable.
What are your goals for this year and the first quarter? How can you break that down into daily baby steps to get you there?